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Philosophy Now’s own columnist Peg Tittle considers the nature of violence.
Whose Violence? “Violence in our society continues to be a problem.” One, duh. Two, no wonder. I mean, we haven’t even got it named right yet. Violence in our society.’ It sounds so – inclusive. So gender-inclusive. But about 85% of all the violent crime is committed by men. Get it? The gangs are made up of men, the bar brawls are fought by men, the corner stores are held up by men, the rapists are men, the muggers are men, the drive-by shooters are men. This is sex-specific. The problem is male violence.
So it does no good to look at ‘society’, to look at our schools, our workplaces, our televisions. We need to look at our boys. We need to look at how we raise them – to become men. Because our girls don’t grow up to commit assault and homicide at the drop of a glove.
And I’m not just talking about toy thumbscrews – I mean, toy guns – versus dolls.
For starters, let’s admit that we stunt their emotional growth. From day one, we encourage outright denial: big boys don’t cry. They don’t cuddle and hug either. So hurt, pain, love, and affection are not cards in the deck they’re playing with.
And then there’s the development of empathy. A grade eleven male student told me once that I’d wrecked hunting for him, because I’d described in some detail the awful last few hours of a wolf that had been shot. The boy said he’d never thought about it before. Seventeen years old, carrying a loaded gun, and he’s never thought about it. I guess Bambi’s become a chick flick, has it? Then again, it’s no wonder – you can’t imagine in another what you can’t even see in yourself.
Now as any reflective human being will know, hurt and anger reside pretty close to each other. So if you’re blind to the hurt, all you’ll recognize is the anger. And anger seems to lend itself to physically explosive expression. Unless you talk about it. If you can’t talk about it, you fight about it. Which brings us to communication skills. As any schoolteacher will tell you, the boys lag behind the girls at language skills. Why this be so? Even if it is innate (a boys-are-better-at-spatialtasks- girls-are-better-at-verbal-tasks thing), it’s merely support for doing more, not less, with boys and communication skills, to compensate for the supposed natural deficiency.
And let’s look at nature. I mean, what if male violence isn’t the result of a double standard in nurture? What if it’s the testosterone? Or the Y chromosome itself? Well, then, maybe it’s the men we should be over-tranquillizing. If we can manipulate estrogen levels, surely we can control testosterone levels.
Of course, you’re horrified at the thought of such chemical castration. Well, hell, I’m horrified! We have an epidemic of violence that’s clearly sex-linked and everyone seems to be busy oohing and aahing at the emperor’s new clothes. The truth is masculinity kills.
© Peg Tittle 1998
Peg Tittle lives with a dog in a cabin on a lake in a forest. They both consider Curious George a role model